In this episode of NPR’s Lifekit, Natalie Lue shares useful tips on how to curb our people-pleasing habits. People pleasing, just like anything else, is a habit that we can learn to change. Here are some things you can do: 1. Observe. Notice how you spend your energy. How are you responding to others’ requests of you? 2. Understand your bandwidth and learn to respect it. No matter who you are, you have a limited amount of time and energy. Before responding to a request, notice how you’re feeling both mentally and physically. 3. Learn the difference between a desire and an obligation. “If you do things from a place of guilt or obligation. It’s guaranteed to lead to resentment.” 4. Before you say yes, pause. Consider if the other person is making a suggestion or a demand of you. Often, it is a suggestion that you do something, which means you have the choice to take it or leave it. 5. Learn the art of the soft no. Learning to stick to an elegant decline of a request such as, “Thank you but I do not have bandwidth for it at this time.” Do not be overly apologetic. I have found these tips helpful, I hope you do too. NPR.
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